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Men and miscarriage, a dad's guide to grief, relationships, and healing after loss, Aaron & MJ Gouveia

eng

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non fiction

Men and miscarriage

1245956158

Aaron & MJ Gouveia

a dad's guide to grief, relationships, and healing after loss

"From an esteemed author known for battling gender norms and bringing down "man up" culture, comes this essential guide for men and those who love them. Miscarriage, infertility, and abortion are generally considered women's issues-and while they are far from uncommon in our society, open conversations surrounding those topics are exceedingly rare. They're seen as taboo, even distasteful. And that's just for women. When it comes to men and how they are impacted by these issues, it's almost complete radio silence. It's not that men don't think about these things or aren't affected-after all, they make up half of most couples experiencing these issues-it's that toxic masculinity and gender stereotypes in our society tell men that suffering in silence equals strength and expressing emotions is weakness. It's men not knowing how to feel, how to express those feelings, or if they're even allowed to feel this trauma beyond supporting their partner. In Men and Miscarriage, husband and wife Aaron and MJ Gouveia ask men (and others) these questions directly. Using their own personal experiences enduring four miscarriages and a medically-necessary abortion combined with interviews of people from all different backgrounds and walks of life, the couple sheds light on how these topics influence men, women, their relationships, their mental health, and examines the shame and stigma too often associated with pregnancies that don't go as planned"--, Provided by publisher

Introduction -- Know the statistics -- Toxic masculinity: recognize it, understand it, battle it -- Miscarriage sucks no matter the stage and everyone grieves differently -- Infertility is a shit show for everyone -- Dealing with and moving beyond abortion -- It's not your fault, skip the blame game -- Guys, this can't be fixed -- Ladies, he's hurting too -- Communication keeps relationships alive -- Your mental health is at risk, so seek help -- How to navigate stupid and insensitive comments -- Social media makes miscarriage really public and really hard -- Don't allow loss to be a thief of future joy -- Try helping others to help yourself -- How to handle the kids you have during pregnancy loss -- The best advice from folks who have been there

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